Dear Bridgehouse Team,

I am reignited with Possibility about Bridgehouses, which I noticed that part of me had given up on. There are no Bridg-Houses around here (where I live). There are no PM contexted Edgeworkers here. Most people here are either in denial or in a new-age selfhelp Fantasy World.

I made up and believed the story, "Bridgehouses don't exist here. The government regulations on land use are too rigid and constricting. I don’t even have a circle of friends to invite to a Bridgehouse."

I'm touched by what I'm seeing emerge from this Bridgehouse Gameworld Telegram Group. I watched yesterday the Trainer Path call with Clinton that was posted a few days ago where he landed this Distinction about killing the Space, Taking A Stand for the culture I choose to live in, and delight, revealing more and more the gap between modern culture and Archiarchy.

Watching that recording brought me to tears about how I play small adapting to spaces, how I'm showing up in my relation in more apathy, victim, rescuer, and persecutor, instead of delight, and how I block this feedback from coming through as a way to avoid the intensity of my feelings.

Huge respect for everyone involved in bringing Bridgehouses to life, and for your own evolutionary process. Go!

Love, Jorge Yote

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Dear Friends,

Bridgehouses prove how tiny impulses can be enough to put a new chain of Clarity, and Action into movement. I am very glad to see that Bridgehouses are Emerging as Power Bridges that get everything in movement, making it impossible to stay bored once you get in touch with this huge brilliant energie.

I am also very happy that in me something new was born when I witness all this life out there in a new, counscience way. I see a step that was missing in my worldview between a lifestyle of isolation and and a truly vibrant life.

Until now, real life was represented for me in Community Living. Bridgehouses open up a huge new possibility to get in touch with a lot more people on the edge of paradim shift, because Bridgehouses will be everywhere, touchable, visible and filled up with life. Bridgehouses create a powerful magnetic energie which brings Possibilitators effectively together.

I am so glad that I found the Bridgehouse Bridge to Archiarchy. I am so glad it became visible to me and called out so strongly. Sometimes I felt lonely and desperate, lacking those vital impulses, even living in a permaculture ecovillage (Inla Kesh).

Thanks all you Bridge makers for all the love that is coming through you, all the empowerment, clearness, posibilities, joy and a lot of more.

We are part of the sunrise! This is one of the most powerfull creative moments of my life!

Love, Monika Hôsterey (from Inla Kesh, Chiapas, Mexico)

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9 November 2023 - Bali

Here at Writing House we are 4 writers all working a lot on Thoughtware Press projects and the StartOver.xyz websites.

Today at lunch (which Sophia Wegele prepared and Sonia Goncalves is presently washing up...) Anne-Chloé brought up the question about how to be together at a Bridgehouse that makes it a Bridgehouse and not simply a group of roommates living together under one roof, even if we work at the same table at the same time in the same room.

Ordinary modern culture people live in psychoemotional memetic construct Boxes inside of their private room Boxes inside of the apartment Box inside of a building Box inside of a neighborhood Box inside of a culture Box.

Because the Context of Bridgehouse is Transformational, the Bridgehouse field gradually peels open each person's defended little nest of Russian Doll Defense Strategy Boxes through a nonlinear and not apparent fourth dimensional Path made up of: skill building, thoughtware upgrade, EHPs, and evolution of consciousness.

Yay! It is the Great Escape! (a 1963 film with: Steve McQueen, James Garner, Richard Attenborough, Charles Bronson and James Coburn! What is not to like about this? (Uh, yeah, well... where are the women? Right question! Only boys play war. So only boys get captured and put in prison in war... easy answer! Plus, the film is full of movie quotes!)

During our lunchtime conversation about this just now, several useful distinctions emerged.

One is that the Bridgehouse itself is actually a 5th member of our Bridgehouse.

Meaning that, if the Bridgehouse is not informed, or not negotiated with, or not shared with, then it goes hungry, it starves, it is unnurtured.

And the only two ways to talk with the Bridgehouse are, one, at a fully attended Torus Convergence, or two, through the Bridgehouse Telegram Group.

It is a kind of paradox that each participant in the Bridgehouse needs to do what they need to do and not be adaptive to a fictitious imaginary 'we'. There is no 'we' in a Bridgehouse. Being adaptive suffocates the individual.

Yet, at the same time, the Bridgehouse is one of the individuals in the Bridgehouse, and also needs to be fed by the experience. Weirdly enough, the Bridgehouse also needs to do what the Bridgehouse needs to do.

The Bridgehouse needs to evolve, to go through EHPs, to go on Adventure Days, and Film Nights, and Stage Work Nights, and Snack Times, and have guests over or go visit with special people, and keep reinventing itself and its relationships with other Bridgehouses, so eventually they can interact and fall in love and make little baby Bridgehouses together...

We had chocolate for dessert.

Love, Clinton Callahan

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Gabriel Hudry, [13-Nov-23 01:25]

In the context of creating the next step of a permanent Bridgehouse in French territory, I report this experiment of Art'chiarchy Bridgehouse (https://bridge-house-artchiarchy.mystrikingly.com/) with 4 other possibilitators in the making @gabrielaflorescedoradaessencia , Daphne Sarpyener, @eithneleahy , Leonhard Geupel.

We could observe the French Box from different aspects thanks to delivering The Menu experiment in the local market.

I realized that 5 different Purposes were part of the project :

-make seedlings of Archiarchy in french territory

-create a new name which doesn't work with the cheesy French box for 'Rage Club', because the French relate the idea of 'rage' as 'disgust', and 'club' like Club Med. The name 'Clarity Laboratory' came out after different conversations with my partner, who collaborated a lot to the experiment, Ludivine.

-create a first step for a permanent Bridgehouse in the Pyrenees, Bagnères de Bigorre, where Art'chiarchy experiment started, the next step will be a seasonal Bridgehouse called for now "garden of possibilities / jardin des possibles"

-cocreate a Codex for next Bridgehouse experiment

-creating a clear distinction of what is a "spaceholder" and an "apprentice spaceholder and working on the topic of inclusivity

-distilling what is "integration" and what are the pathways to live together as experimentators of the next culture to come, with sword, proposals and chocolate moment to moment

-distilling the bridge to communicate with french box, using new names and words to aleviate the distinctions that were not working with people (as if we were speaking with a different language, like it is in the translation of english Memetic language to french memetic language in birthing)

-experimenting Archan Permacultrue Gameworld and create Art pieces to research that (articles to come, one mandala to be shared about 5 inner garden bodies, collage, compost and creation club...)

General feedback:

-Necessity for having a longer experiment to invite more people

-Gold for relating all together and using the space to do EHPs together and kick our asses (poop on the table process and 2 frying pans where highly efficient and legendary for that).

-Torus technology work partially with someone that doesn't have ETB and Gremlin Transformation

-Archetypal Body connection might not work with someone that doesn't have a Lab and can be a source of frustration (anger)

-Archetypal Lineage distillation of messages was a clear success. 4 Archetypal spaces came out of this Bridgehouse : incarnation of Guides/ entities speaking through Archetypal Lineage, calling forth Archetypal Lineage to speak from the source (Witchcraft), distilling our gameplans by using wands of possibilities and the natural magic of mountains (photo), speaking as a feedback circle from Archetypal Body to Harvest (a new distinction yet to come from Archan Permaculture Gameworld). For at least 3 people, it was a clear fisrt experiment of deeply relating to Archetypal Body.

-From the intension (video1 (https://youtu.be/KpUshueydaU)) to the manifestation in matter, ECCO was clearly at work, this is a legend too.

-the Possibility Menu was a successful experiment, in the 3rd row it became also a clarity laboratory with different workshops in it: saying yes! no! ha! (people truning around in the market with surprise). Leonhard speaking in english with french people in the street, Gabriela delivering energetic distinctions and a big hug to a woman who went on crying form a 5 bodies scan, helping a man to recenter by my side...

-in the conversation with Kristoffer Trautmann (video to come) I distilled 7 guidelines to be inspired to create a Bridge House

More to share soon and to come. Contact me if you want more details, I'm currently unable to write articles (still working on it though)possibilitator

with love

Gabriel.

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Daway Chou-Ren, [15-Nov-23 03:50]

Gabriel, your message leaves me wanting more. I would message you privately as you ask, but then the gold would be only available to you and me.

When will Jardin Des Possibles happen? What did you learn from Art'chiarchy that will be part of the context for Jardin Des Possibiles?

You write that a longer experiment is necessary. How long?

You write that Torus Technology works partially with someone who hasn't been through an ETB and that Archetypal Body connection might not work. What does that mean? How will your Guardianship of Jardin Des Possibles change? Or what new possibilities/experiments do you have for making invitations for someone to join your Context?

What does, "working on the topic of inclusivity" mean?

I would guess that what you learned from Art'chiarchy is very valuable to others looking to source Archiarchy. I would like to hear it "straight" from you ("straight" = no fluff about what worked/didn't work).

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Gabriel Hudry, [15-Nov-23 23:38]

Daway, despite the parenting part of your message, I'm taking the enthousiasm from it.

I'm up to have a short and straight interview with you, in what is straight in your world.

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Daway Chou-Ren, [16-Nov-23 05:59]

Gabriel, I take a do-over for my message. Thank you for your feedback.

Bridge Houses die without proper Guardianship. Bridge Houses die when context gets misaligned. Bridge Houses die when there are different levels of responsibility, and the different levels are not consciously chosen.

I’ve heard legends about Art’chiarchy. I’ve heard there was Archetypal space being sourced there. I heard that nearly every single day, someone was turned on enough about something to hold an extraordinary space.

I also heard there were messes. One mess in particular that I heard about was that there was an Apprentice spaceholder who had not been to an Expand The Box training and who did not have Distinctions about Radical Responsibility. I heard she had an extremely reactive Gremlin and that she would destroy your spaces of intimacy.

Making messes is the quickest way to learn. If feedback is gold, messes are the gold mine. When I read your message, I did not get to hear about your messes. I did not get any of what you learned about being a Guardian or what you learned about Integrating People Into a Context.

Sharing what really goes on at Bridge Houses feeds this space. It feeds the little baby Bridge Houses waiting to be born in people. It means that I might not have to make the same kind of mess, or risk killing the spaces of intimacy I am trying to create.

Will you tell us more about what happened at Art’chiarchy? Especially about Guardianship and Stewardship.

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Gabriel Hudry, [16-Nov-23 08:15]

Dear Daway

I'm glad about your clear demand.

First I need to do a clear set up about what I'm going to say.

Bridgehouses don't die. A snail dies if I walk on it. Bridgehouses collapse. I'm feeling fear and anger about the use of strong words in order to go in "Terminator Coaching style PM". (That would do a great logging sentence for a website though).

What I've been learning with the unclear Apprentice's presence, is that Sword Of Clarity has 4 different edges for 4 different feelings: anger, fear, sadness and joy are part of it. When I could not relate and give sharp distinction with my sword, I had one, two, three other coaches to help me be vulnerable and fall apart. There connection happened again, through sadness. It was not victim Bullshit. I meant real sadness, crying, tears flowing when still facing the 'apprentice'. Deep fear was bringing a sense of spaciousness and momentum - pressure naturally flowed to our nervous systems, also in the Apprentice's. Joy was allowing a sense of satisfaction and gratitude that allowed us to practice being here and now, small here and now - where is the bliss if there is no such momentums and simple ceremonies?

What was messy?

Not clarifying what is an Apprentice is a clear mess. It allowed a sneaking blaming energy about "this is hierarchical" and triggered our Not OK Boxes.

This was an Unhookable training for me and the other members spaceholders.

What it took to be a Guardian?

Being unhookable, negociating spaces and intimacy moment to moment, being vulnerable (it allowed me to see my rescuing pattern and unfolding the shadow of both 'leadership' and 'inclusivity').

Even so I decided to let go and not use my Sword all the tipossibilitatorme, I took time to integrate and do something else, a reality with sometimes swamp and sometimes clear sharp moments with Nothing.

It took me to be a guardian of myself, when I had enough, I had enough, I let go, yet I didn't give up, I drewback and I cameback.

What it took to integrate?

Instead of relating to PM with my Parent Ego State, I started something else. What if I choose to forget all of what I've been doing so far with PM?What will remain? I was overfed with distinctions. Wanting to be perfect is causing the ceasing of aliveness. It dries the inner landscape of relating.

I had an overdose of clear and distinct depicted reality. My upgraded thoughtware superpower was inert. My compass of Reality was missing even though I was doing processes after processes to get it back.

I had the Necessity to experiment something else without knowing what I was experimenting. I had to cease relating with my expanded PM Box. It took more time than what I thought. Days turn out to be months.

I had to be on the threshold of, "What if it is my Gremlin deciding that and that I'm fooling myself?" But guess who's saying that?

There is a moment where Not Knowing AT ALL is terrifying. It is entering a new Reality. A threshold.

Integration comes from other pathways, there is a necessity to let go sometimes, it is not all the time relating with distinctions as a robotic PM Good Trainer would do - the pitfall of the great minds. I integrated in the mess. I wallowed in the mess. I felt sad about it, I let go of some commitments I've been holding, and it was time to integrate.

The pushy coaching style doesn't work in spaces of relating, unless you want people to suffocate and shrink in their underworld, there is a Necessity to breathe and go non-linear with other unexplored options. That is the kind of gold I can get from this Bridgehouse.

The benefit of having an unclear apprentice in the space?

It brought us the quality of wind. Her curiosity brought aliveness into the rediscovery of many distinctions. It has been a mini-ETB along the way for her, a big-unhookable training for me (and I suppose, the 3 other spaceholders).

What do I get from it?

I'm up to restart the experiment, with a little clearer idea about the spaceship for being an apprentice - the spaceship and structure will have to be co-designed together.

What I already sense is that there is a Necessity for the Team to Cavitate and Declare Spaces where there are no Apprentices, and Spaces where they are invited, and Spaces where they are required. Theses Spaces needs to be defined.

Actually that is what happened. The Apprentice drew back from 3 of the Archetypal spaces, and the fourth Space I asked her to leave. The difference is - I suppose - if these Spaces would be clearly defined and clearly set up they will have their own Boundaries.

What if I don't know at all?

As I have heard from your Bridgehouse, having Matrix is not sufficient info to prevent Low Drama.

Many people who come to PM already experienced their Archetypal Body, and some people trained with many Possibility Labs and Gremlin Transformation still don't have it. This is naturally Unfair.

The nature of life is different for many Beings. Here comes Experiential Reality - this is part of the chaos.

There is no clear Guideline. The only thing that I know, is what it means to not have a Compass Of Reality and how challenging it is and painful it is. I am glad I went through this Initiation.

I will ask you questions in private, as they are more intimate and related to your Bridgehouse. I'm willing to bring them back here once distilled with you.

Did I answered clearly enough your questions? If not, ask again in a different way. I would be pleased to answer.

Meetings and many decisions at Bridgehouse use Torus Technology, a circular meeting technology that relies on Spaceholding and Space Navigation and optimize group intelligence through Divergences and Convergences (rather than 'leadership'). Torus Technology uses thoughtware from Possibility Management, and includes:

• 3 Phase Healing
• 13 Tools
• 50 Thoughtware Upgrades
• Adulthood
• Archan Economics
• Archan Relating
• Archetypal Lineage
• Archiarchy
• Baggage
• Become A Bridge
• Become Money
• Become Unhookable
• Box Technology
• Bright Principles
• Creation of Clarity
• Creation of Possibility
• Debaptize Yourself
• Debarrierize Yourself
• Deconstellate Yourself
• Decontaminate your Adult Egostate
• Demonetize Yourself
• Disjointment
• Excuses
• Feelings Form
• Frying Pan
• Gremlin
• Gremlin Transformation
• Growness
• Hit Bottom
• Initiations
• Invention
• Map Of Possibility
• Memetic Engineering and other Memetic Healing Surgeries
• Men's Circle
• M.E.S.S. Process
• Nonmaterial Value
• Parts
• Phoenix Process
• Poop On The Table
• Possibility Books
• Possibility Couchsurfing
• Possibility Films
• Possibility Team
• Purpose Sniffer
• Radical Freedom
• Radical Reality
• Radical Relating
• Radical Responsibility
• Rage Club
• Reactivity
• Requiem Process
• Resistance Decision Making
• Selfobservation
• Self Surgery
• S.P.A.R.K. Experiments
• StartOver.xyz's Spaceport of Websites
• Swamp
• Tar Baby Process
• Torus Meeting Technology
• Purple Card
• WEConFest
• What Is - Happening
• Whizz Bang
• Witchhunt
• Wisdom Counsel
• Wok
• Women's Circle
• Women Of Earth
• Zombies
• Etc.

Nothing can possibly change if you do not Upgrade Your Thoughtware with regards to Responsibility.

If you are still using Standard Human Intelligence Thoughtware (S.H.I.T.) with regards to Responsibility you cannot depart from Ordinary Spaces and therefore are trapped in ordinary communication, ordinary relationship, and other ordinary life functions.

Without departing from Standard Human Intelligence Thoughtware you cannot enter the precious domains of Radical Responsibility.

Without Decontaminating your Adult Ego State from your Gremlin Ego State, your Child Ego State, your Parent Ego State (and from and any 'Demon Ego States' you may happen to have picked up...) the Adult Ego State is completely inaccessible to you.

Every time you try to be Present, to be Unhookable, to be Adult, you cannot, because Child, Parent, or Gremlin (or all 3) Ego States occupy your Adult space.

Without being stable in the Adult Ego State you CANNOT enter the delightfully ecstatic Archetypal Domains.

A Decontaminated Adult Ego State suddenly becomes a Doorway into the Archetypal Domains that Authentically Initiated Adults are designed to explore.

Integrity is created and maintained by doing what you say you will do. You are in Integrity when you keep the promises you make.

You are also in Integrity when you are as healthy as you are designed to be, in other words, not using ill-health to block you from creating what you came here to create. In still other words, ongoingly applying Integrity Healing.

Accountability with your Accountability. This means not believing that if you explain your reasons really well you are no longer responsible.

Accountability with your Hookability. This means not believing that being Hooked sometimes is a fine way to feed your Gremlin.

Accountability with your Reactivity. This means not believing that if you understand your Reactivity you don't have to grow up.

Accountability with your Gremlin and his/her Hidden Purpose. This means not believing that blaming your actions on your Gremlin lets you off the hook.

Accountability with Decontaminating your Adult Ego State. This means not believing that having your Gremlin in charge only 30% of the time is better than 40% of the time.

Accountability with your Bright Principles. This means not believing that sometimes you can use your Bright Principles and sometimes you can forget all about them.

Accountability with your Archetypal Lineage. This means being radically clear that it CANNOT work to try to keep your childhood Survival Strategy intact while being the Space through which your Archetypal Lineage does its work in the world.

Accountability with being part of Gaia. This means not believing that you are a passenger on 'spaceship Earth' but rather that you ARE Earth.

Accountability with your collaboration with E.C.C.O. (Earth Coincidence Control Office). This means not believing that your life is independent of the greater forces in the Universe.

Radical Relating is the name for adult Ego State, Radically Responsible, Minimized NOW, minimized HERE, Being to Being interactions. Radical Relating is one of the skillsets practiced by Possibilitators in Mage Training and Flying School.

Radical Relating emerges from combining:

• Radical Responsibility
• Radical Reliance
• Radical Honesty
• Radical Simplicity
• Radical Vulnerability

Many people still unconsciously use parts of their childhood Survival Strategy during interactions. This eliminates the possibility of Adult interactions. The inability to inhabit a Decontaminated Adult Ego State blocks access to the Archetypal Domains, and thus blocks access to the ecstatic delights of Archetypal 5-Body Intimacy Journeys.

One of the practices at Bridgehouse is to help each other build out and inhabit an Adult personality to inhabit, rather than exclusively focusing on Emotional Healing Processes and trying to find out what 'the next step' to take is. Through this Adult Character Development we help each other discover and inhabit who each of us potentially is as a Free And Natural Initiated Adult living as the space through which our Archetypal Lineage and Bright Principles can do their work in the world.

Asking someone to leave the Magic Cow Bridgehouse

How we navigated to Guardianship

Daway Chou-Ren

Nov 27, 2023

Asking someone to leave a community is not easy. To do so threatens child-ego state needs to 'have peace' or 'be inclusive'. Most would rather try to hide until the storm is over.

This article is about how and why we asked someone (whom I will call 'Tina') to leave our Bridgehouse experiment. It is about how we initiated ourselves into Guardianship, which required learning to navigate our clarity and our fears.

We care about this article because, without real Guardianship, the context of a Bridgehouse — or any Gameworld — is set by the person with the lowest level of responsibility. We learned this the hard way. A single person fighting the context can cause the entire context to collapse into their level of responsibility. This is a blunt telling of how that went for us.

At the end is What We Would Do Differently.

The Surprise & The Mess

MCBH was in context-deepening mode for several months. We had weekly calls which were meant to make sure our context of Radical Responsibility was clear and aligned with what participants wanted to create.

It did not work.

I say that because several weeks ago we asked a participant to leave the Bridgehouse, one week after she arrived. She was not in our context.

She did not have the distinction between feelings vs. emotions landed in her. She would have emotional reactivity and then insist on trying to use that to navigate conflict. She resisted taking herself out of the space to do EHPs and was uninterested in trying new things related to a 'Core Wound' of being abandoned. She could not tell when she was hooked.

She did not use the Box vs. Being distinction during challenging moments.
She said something like, “I don’t want there to be a distinction between my Box and my Being.”

Her Gremlin contamination was too tight for her to create Being-to-Being connections after moments of reactivity. Her Gremlin-self-defense was more important to her than caring about the space.

I mention all of this because it was a shock, and that is the first learning. I had met Tina in online and in-person trainings
before. My experience was that she 'got' all these core distinctions.
How could it be that she would show up like this?

I realize now that Bridgehouses will dig up old unhealed core wounds. Bridgehouses are about things that are so vital to people’s Beings such as Love and Connection and Being-With. But with that territory comes people’s wounds about these things also, and these are usually their most tender wounds. So if you are entering a Bridgehouse, be prepared to be in the muck.

We did know about Tina’s very active Gremlin. Our Bridgehouse Guardian team (Patricio Diaz, Meredith Witt, and I) had a conversation with her during a Possibility Lab about her Gremlin’s ability to destroy our Bridgehouse. She went liquid, and I
thought, “Great, that will make our job so much easier, now that it’s on the table and she has acknowledged it.” It did not, because I think how people show up in a community setting is so different from how they show up elsewhere, including in training spaces.

Tina arrived when I was away at an ETB. Immediately, the other participants had clarity that her context was not aligned with our Bridgehouse’s. On her first night, Meredith tried to reset the context. She held a space to explore and deepen the context in hopes that if she was clear enough and made enough sense, then Tina would join the context. It did not work. On the third night, Meredith made a proposal for Tina to leave. But to actually ask Tina to leave was the ultimate threat to Meredith’s
'good girl' Box, and that ask was not made.

Holding Space for Someone to Leave

Fear of Clarity

When I get back to the Bridgehouse, the air is heavy with deadness and stuckness. I ask about this at dinner, and my mere asking breaks the dam. Meredith floods the room with mixed emotions. Anger + Fear + Sadness. She cries but cannot express anything except that she’s been suffering for the past five days. It is clear that she has been torturing herself.

Just like a blocked digestive system will cause an immense amount of pain, so too does blocked clarity. The Being is dying to speak and declare what it knows.

Meredith has clarity that the context is not aligned. To be around someone with high Gremlin contamination who will not distinguish between Box and Being or Feelings and Emotions is torture for anyone trying to create higher levels of intimacy. She is dying to say, “I want you to leave.” But she cannot.

Meredith cannot because of her own contaminations. Her child-ego state is unwilling to cause a mess with Tina. After all, Tina had been 'allowed' to be here and had traveled all this way…

Gremlin-doubt creeps in too: “Well, can’t I just try harder? Is this just a part of the transformation I need to do? These are expectations I have of her. Can’t I love more?” Meredith’s blocked clarity manifests in her physical body locking up. She is on the verge of literal physical collapse.

As often happens with people’s 'problems', there is a single thread that can be pulled to unravel the whole thing.

“This is a mixed emotion. Would you like to unmix it?”

It is a magic pill for Meredith to come back to life, and what does she do? She protests. Or rather, her Box does. Her Box has enough wisdom about these things to know what will happen when she unmixes her emotions. She will get her clarity back, and this clarity will kill this whole 'good girl not asking someone to leave the community' prison chamber she’s locked herself in. She says so herself, “I’m afraid to unmix because I know what’s underneath.”

This is Meredith’s biggest impediment to unfolding the power of her Being. She insists on dulling her own clarity. She enjoys the hobby of breaking her own heart.

But finally, her Box relents. When we finally get to her pure, unmixed anger, it is not someone who has 'too many expectations' or someone who 'is not loving enough' that is speaking. It is an adult woman with her clarity that the Bridgehouse is supporting two different contexts at two different levels of Responsibility. And that is not what Meredith wants. It is simple.

Meredith breathes a sigh of relief. It feels good to have said what she was swallowing down for five straight days.
Better yet, the world has not ended.

Initiation into Guardianship

The script rolls on. It is Eithne’s turn to speak.

She makes Being-to-Being contact. She declares her love for Tina’s Being, and that she wants to keep collaborating and connecting with her. But not here, not in this context, because she feels as Meredith does that the context is not aligned.

I do not see any signs that Tina lets this love in. Her Gremlin says something about how she cannot care about
others’ hearts until she knows that her own heart is cared for. She needs to know 'she has been heard'. I complete her communications until there are no more.

Although it’s clear that Meredith and Eithne want her to leave the Bridgehouse, there is an angry protest from
Tina’s Gremlin. “I do not want to leave this Bridgehouse just because others want me to. I have done that in the past. I felt bad and then I left.”

On the one hand, her stance is closed off to having a connection with Meredith and Eithne. On the other hand, there is amazing, transformational clarity with it.

Tina does not want to leave just because others are unhappy with her. She feels manipulated into doing so, into being the one to alleviate the discomfort in others.

It lands in me that no one, in all these days of suffering together in a house of split context, has actually gone ahead and asked her to leave. All that’s been said is something like, “You aren’t in the context. I want you to leave.”

It is passive. It is asking Tina to rescue the house from their Good Girl boxes and remove herself!

I ask Tina, “Has anyone asked you to leave yet?”

The answer is, “No.” 

And that answer creates a gap for Eithne to begin negotiating, but it must begin with asking. Eithne now sees what is happening and what would be required of her to make an adult communication. She shudders and waves of emotional fear grip her. Fear of 'being a bitch', fear that Tina will want to have revenge one day, fear that this will completely shut down a connection she wants to nurture outside this Bridgehouse. The fears go on and on.

Through this all, Eithne’s Being understands that a doorway to an initiation is wide open in front of her, if she chooses to take it.

It comes out slowly. “Tina, I ask you to leave the Magic Cow Bridgehouse.”

Eithne has not quite taken the doorway. “Eithne, that is not a question.” The actual ask is so much harder, and Eithne rolls through another wave of fear. Then she tries again. “Tina, will you leave the Magic Cow Bridgehouse?”

Silence. Eithne can hear the weakness of her ask and the unclarity that is still baked into it.

“… as soon as possible?”

Good enough.

There are Gremlin protests from Tina. She demands to understand why Eithne wants her to leave and refuses to give her an answer until she does. I want to pull my hair out. I want it to matter that Eithne and Meredith have risked their Boxes to make these communications to her. I want Being-vulnerability to be met with Being-vulnerability.

I don’t know how to navigate this. What do you do when you ask someone to leave and she refuses to give an answer? What will we do if the answer is a Gremlin, “No!”?

But I sense it doesn’t matter. One purpose is complete: Eithne has risked her Box, and what has emerged in its place
is a shift of identity into being a Guardian of the Bridgehouse.

We Are Playing Different Games: 'Inclusive' Love vs. Being on a Transformational Team

Nicole is able to be on the ground-level with Tina, and she sees that the distinctions that the rest of us have agreed to play with (feelings vs. emotions, Box vs. Gremlin vs. Being, etc) are simply not clear to Tina.
Saying this again, even if Tina does not get it, is valuable because it adds Integrity to our space. It adds Integrity to say what we are about and to be clear about what Eithne and Meredith are asking.

Nicole explains that it is not an ask for Tina’s Being to leave. We love Tina’s Being and want it here. The ask to leave is because her Gremlin has the ability to destroy our context. The consequences are high. And in the tight contamination it has with her Being, navigating to intimacy has proven impossible.

Tina says something like, “Well, this is what I’m capable of. I don’t want there to be a distinction between my Being
and my Gremlin.”

There is a difficult needle to thread here. Our context includes that Gremlin is not bad. Defensive anger is not bad. Fighting back is not bad. (Or good). We want people here as they are, not pretending they are capable of this or that.

But other implicit values of the Bridgehouse have come to the surface. It is okay to have Gremlin reactivity come up. This is great, actually, because it is a doorway to more personal transformation. But Gremlin without enough gap to connect to others, without enough gap to realize they are on your team about this transformation, is simply not pleasant.
Gremlin without the humility to consider feedback with enough self-doubt to engage in serious experimentation about it even if you do not understand (and perhaps precisely so!), is not pleasant.

Tina does not get this. She stands for some kind of Radical Inclusion. She says, “This is how I am and I want that accepted,” which ultimately has nothing to do with taking responsibility for the conflicts she sources in her life.
This is why many communities fail, because they cling tightly to including and loving all the 'parts' of a human, without distinguishing between someone’s Being and their Gremlin parts. The lack of distinction here means that it’s impossible to guard against untransformed Gremlin parts which are serving Underworld purposes such as destroying intimacy and proving
to oneself that, “I am unlovable.”

I think that is the saddest part of this story, because Tina has a brilliant, creative Being. She wants to be part of a community. Her heart longs for it. Her Underworld, however, is committed to proving that she can never be accepted.

Radical Inclusion that caters to Child or Gremlin is a dangerous block to the transformational context that might be found at a Bridgehouse. It ignores asking, “What parts are you including?”

Nicole asks Tina, “Will you leave within 72 hours?” Tina once more refuses to give an answer.

She turns to me. It is my turn to speak.

Initiations Cannot Be Undone

Tina asks me, “Daway, do you want me to leave too?”

I hesitate. I can feel the dynamics at play. Tina has been fighting these women all week while I’ve been gone. From how she asks, I know she’ll leave if I say, "Yes." She has made me into the 'male authority figure'.

I will not answer from that place.

But I look around the table, and I wonder if it collapses all the work the women have done to speak their
clarity if it seems like only my word that can resolve this situation. I realize it does not. Tina can think what she thinks, act how she acts, refuse to answer to anyone except me, and none of this would change that Meredith and Eithne have initiated themselves into being Guardians of our Bridgehouse.

I say, “Yes. I would like you to leave within 48 hours. Will you?”

Tina agrees.

What Would We Do Differently?

Tina is an 'experienced' Possibilitator who has been to multiple Possibility Labs. But how she showed up on our Zoom calls and how she showed up at in-person trainings was different from how she showed up when we were living together.

We give ourselves this advice for the next Bridgehouse: Hold your context-deepening meetings the way you would as if you were living together already. Hold space for the same kind of transformation, the same kind of sword-at-each-others’ throat feedback, the same kind of edgewalking as you really want.

We had a lot of meetings about visioning, projects, our necessities for Bridgehouse, what our hearts want, and how we wanted the Bridgehouse to interact with Modern Culture. This was great. This kind of context deepening is important. But we did not do enough to uncover what distinctions we each were using about Feelings vs. Emotions, Box vs. Being, and so on. We did not investigate how each person would show up for being on a Transformational Team together.
Would they block transformation? Would they defend with vicious Gremlin attacks? Would they pull the rug out from their own feet? Would they be able to source rug-pulling-out for others?

Ask yourself, “What does high-level participation in my Bridgehouse really look like?” If it is, “They are interested in transformation,” what does that mean? How exactly will you know that they are participating at a high level?

If Transformation, Gap with Gremlin, and the ability to connect Heart-to-Heart are part of your desired context as it is for us, then make that a part of your context from the very beginning. The Bridgehouse starts on your first calls. Use that time to be in the context and attract people who are willing to play at that level.

Radical Freedom is an Experiment, an unproven theory at this point.

The idea is that each of was, in various ways, attacked, manipulated, forced, restricted, punished, threatened, abused, controlled, and otherwise badly treated by the modern capitalist patriarchal empire's hierarchies that have been captured by psychopaths. All of them.

Your only response was to create a Survival Strategy and survive as best you could.

And you did it. You survived. But your net talents, after 18 years of survival on the front lines of guerilla warfare, are your unconscious application of your most potent survival weapon: your Type 1 or Type 2 Gremlin.

You have been pressured under life-or-death circumstances to use your Gremlin everywhere and always, in its meanest, cleverest, most caustic and harmfully-deceptive traits... for 18 years. This is what you are really good at: Survival-level Gremlin shit.

And now you are supposed to shift into Radical Responsibility, Conscious Attention, Creative Collaboration, and leap into Authentic Adulthood Initiatory Processes, sacrificing everything to become a Free And Natural Adult?

I don't think so.

You did not even have a decent chance to take Revenge on all those people who hurt you, betrayed you, sexually abused you, wrongfully punished you, tortured you, neglected you, abandonned you, judged you, rejected you. They never even saw you.

You hold inside of you so much Revenge that is well-plotted but undelivered. It has been so Unfair. You have not had a chance to come to life, and now you are supposed to Transform your Gremlin and Decontaminate your Adult Egostate? I don't think that will work. If you start shining now, being raiant, powerful, healthy, happy... then it means whatever your parents did or neglected to do for you, worked. They were right to torture and abuse you. I don't think so.

You are at least 18 years old and you don't even know what flavor of ice cream you really like, or what your favorite color actually is.

You don't even know if you truly like soccer (Very few people actually do... It is a kind of mass hypnosis, to like soccer. Modern culture publicizes soccer like the Romans used 'bread and games' to try to keep the mobs of people from destroying their elite hierarchy... Latin: 'panem et circenses'. "Give them bread and circuses and they will never revolt.")

Who are you really?

You don't know. Really.

You are not enough there to Take A Stand, be Radically Responsible, pay Attention to your Attention, do Self Observation, make Proposals, Create Collaborations, Negotiate Intimacy, Cause Transformation, design and do your own Experiments, serve your Bright Principles and Archetypal Lineage, deliver your Nonmaterial Value, connect with another human being, and so on... a long list of things that you are not truly there for.

How can you be there? The answer is simple. You cannot, not in your present condition of just being released from the prison camps.

You can, of course, pretend. You can try to force yourself be a 'good person', a 'practitioner', a 'good Possibilitator', but... how is it working for you?

So many people find Expand The Box training and the Possibilitator Path, and then immediately try to force themselves into a Life Of Practice, a Life Of Learning, and it does not work. They get stuck... somewhere... by something...

You may want to do it. You may sense a longing for Authentic Adulthood Initiatory Processes. You may try for a few years, but it does not catch on. It does not hold. It does not land in you. For some reason, you don't get it. Then you stop.

Why is that?

Our new theory is: It does not work because you have not yet entered Reality. You are still in Gremlin-powered Survival mode. You have not landed two feet on Earth as yourself for a while. You have not started being you, here on Earth, with enough Matrix and enough Clarity to begin living.

Here is our proposal:

Take a year. Take two years. Make whatever space and time is needed for you to free yourself of the need for Revenge. Come to Presence.

Make the time to take Radical Responsibility for your Radical Freedom. Find out what you are really up to, here on Earth. What is your real Purpose for being here?

This is not the so-called 'gap year' for your Gremlin to binge on everything before you become a slave Zombie in a corporate job for the rest of your miserable life.

This is your time to recover from being crushed by the machine.

This is your time to Finish Being Born.

Become ecstatically Centered. Become absurdly effective at your Knacks. Escape from modern culture. Travel into Southeast Asia as a Nomad and experience the Earth. Get out of your 8 Prisons. Become a Global Citizen, Call Your Being Through, take back your Attention, your Authority, your Voice, your 3 Powers, your Rage, your Fear, your Conscious Will, your Agency. Debaptize yourself. Debarrier yourself. Collect up your Parts. Heal your Disjointment.

Radical Freedom is a Space that you Cavitate for you to Start Over as a new person, victim of no one, subject to no one, adapting to nothing, withholding nothing.

Radical Freedom is your time and Space to start over as the person you are when you are not forced to use everything to your wits end merely to Survive.

This proposal is that your Radical Freedom could start at a safe space called Bridgehouse.

Certain Bridgehouses are becoming centers for achieving Radical Freedom. (More info at the Radical Freedom website.)

After Radical Freedom has become your new home, then it's time to learn Radical Relating.