Why is it that we think we don’t have enough time when we have all the time there is: we have all the time that anyone else has, and we are choosing every moment what to do with that time? If we choose to do anything it is only because we have made time to do it. If we choose ever to not do something, we simply do not make the time to do that thing. We are time makers! Yet we try to blame other people or the circumstances for choosing what we make time for! This is truly amazing!

Many of us hand over our lives to some little voice from our mind that says, “I’m tired! I’m exhausted! I have to have one of those! I can’t do this! I deserve a break today!” and then choose to go unconscious, thinking that things should be some way other than the way they are. It is amazing that we do not simply enjoy things as they are, or reinvent our experience of them if we want.

We typically glance over the dry, barren landscape of our life, looking for minimalized, mediocre opportunities, rather than realizing that we ourselves hold up the veil that makes the surrounding look dry and barren. We refuse to bathe in the ocean of possibilities spreading out in every direction in every moment. We make the wealth of
options that are sitting at our feet invisible and inaccessible. Rather than creating noble, lively, juicy, dynamic, dignified, challenging opportunities for ourselves and others out of available materials, or better yet, out of
nothingness (a material which is readily at hand, anytime, anywhere, for no cost – if we have the space for it!), we go around like crippled elephants at a fashion show thinking there is no opportunity to be found, and that nobody
loves us besides.

It is amazing that we have made ourselves afraid of the power of insanity. Without knowing it, one of our first considerations in making any decisions is whether or not we will appear to be sane. If the gap between our possible
behavior and the appearance of sanity is too great, we will not do it. If the gap between the behavior of someone else and what is typically recognized as sane behavior is too great, we will call the police. By rejecting anything
that even appears to be insane we simultaneously reject one of our greatest powers: the power of incongruity.

Insanity is where nonlinear possibilities and 'orthogonal moves' come from.

Relationship is an act of ongoing nonlinear creation. If we do not have access to insanity, we cannot go nonlinear
to create aliveness in relationship. We are too terrified to invent. No wonder relationship seem dead. We straightjacket ourselves so that we appear to be sane, but our pretended civility asphyxiates the dynamo of human interactions.

In each moment relationship is sourced through invention. Love is invented. Right here, by you, with what you have right now. Life without inventing love is like trying to be happy when you find an outdated coupon for thirty cents off a jar of mayonnaise, lying faded on a dirt road.

In the moment you commit to being the source of love in your life (or the source of love in someone else’s life, or, if you are really insane, a source of love in life itself) even though you do not know how, life becomes simultaneously horrifying and exhilarating, the most fulfilling of endeavors.

(You may think that you already know what this means, but consider the possibility that you do not. Consider the possibility that you do not even know that you do not know what this means. This is not new-age philosophy. This is consciousness expansion happening. There is a big difference. You can discover the difference.)

You have become an expert in avoiding possibilities.

You can prove this to yourself by doing the following experiment: If you really wanted to be loving in any situation, find out who stops you. Really. Find out who is it that is stopping you from being loving and go meet them, intimately, in person. Meet them and create the kind of communication vacuum in which they are willing to tell you exactly why, in each incident, in excruciating detail, why they are stopping you from being loving.