A 'dramaholic' is someone Addicted to creating and experiencing unconscious Low Drama.

 

This Addiction strongly stimulates adrenalin in your bloodstream and Survival Strategies in your behavior options so that you feel 'familiar' and therefore 'safe'.

 

Even if you are deeply involved in Authentic Adulthood Healing and Initiation Processes - such as Gremlin Transformation, Adult Egostate Decontaminations, or Possibility Labs - nearly nothing will change for you because, being a Low Drama Addict - secretly feeding Low Drama to your Gremlin - precludes all other Purposes.

 

This website is your gateway to Dramaholic's Anonymous.

1. If you have participated in Expand The Box training and a Possibility Lab or two, and Low Drama is still happening in your life, is is possible that you are a Dramaholic, deeply preferring the comfortable familiarity of Low Drama over the new territory of Adulthood.

2. If are not in a long-term relationship now because, "It is easier to be alone," then possibly your are a Dramaholic.

3. If you have been terminated from jobs due to being argumentative, lost relationships and friends due to conflicts, found yourself thinking of suicide (even if ever-so-briefly...), you may be a Dramaholic.

4. If experiencing living with a partner or housemates in a space without Low Drama, you get a sense that something is wrong, or feel lack of 'aliveness' in you.

5. If you keep scores in your relationship.

6. If you judge or criticize others frequently, even in your head.

7. If Low Drama or conflict seem to follow you.

8. If you carry the belief that people in your life need to change for your relationships to improve.

9. If you feel closer or more attached to someone during or after conflict.

10. If you often take things personally.

11. If you often choose to be right over of being with the other people.

12. If you have tendencies for compulsion, impulsivity, and addiction.

13. If you are often overwhelmed and experience life as being too hard.

14. If you are often experience emotional misery.

Tendency for physical explosions or implosions resulting in the throwing of objects, slamming of doors, acting self-harm, physical abuse, sexual abuse, isolation or self or others, eating or shopping frenzy, binge or restriction. Bitting nails or pulling your own skin, hair, scratching your skin until you bleed, having little accidents that keep you bruised or big accidents where you break your bones, or have stomach problems or skin rashes.

Tendency for psychological abuse, racism, sexism, classism, victim thinking (creating a predictive 'doom and gloom' story based on past experience), obsessive thinking (going over an experience in our mind more than once or twice), egocentricity –everything has happened to you or is happening to you, for you and because of you. Tendency for fantasies about killing other people or where others are dying in order to resolve a problem. Tendencies for fantasies about dying or being ill so that others would feel guilty or remorse.

Tendency for emotional outbursts from unconscious anger, sadness, fear, or joy. Tendencies for outwardly or inwardly arguing, yelling, criticizing, blaming, complaining, impulsivity, unmotivation, uninspiration, ambivalence, indecision, resentment, creating intrigue. Having fights or arguments in your head often.

Tendencies for a strong sense of urgency where everything seems big or hugely important, especially if there has been no high-intensity emotions of feelings coming up, or to often create 'what if?' scenarios of danger, violence, hurt, hopelessness, or misery.

In relationship this looks like looking for signs of betrayal or carrying the sensations of displeasure as a way of keeping score, so you can then take revenge. The revenge can look like continuously creating subtle or not subtle emotional 'attacks' towards your partner; usually criticizing, making demeaning comments (even in joking), or that infer a lack of consciousness, intelligence, care, directly to the partner or to someone else with the partner. To minimise or 'poop' on your partner's excitement and enthusiasm about a topic or a hobby.

Cravings for power, control, domination, entitlement, escape, manipulation, outcomes, for making others understand, listen or agree with you. Creating moves that use sexual energy in subtle and not subtle ways to invade other people's space, looking for evidence that you are not okay, or worthy, or belong on this planet. Tendencies to hoard things or loose things often. Tendencies to not let go of the past, traumatic or not, to carry the child ego state with you well into adulthood as a valuable form of relating in your current life. Purposefully enmeshing your personal space with other people so you can be them, feel what they feel, particularly with people who could be a danger or violent to you. Constantly feeling exhausted and drained from your day and from life. Looking at other people in the street, workplace, friend's groups as enemies, competition, or lesser / better people than you.

Tendencies to see your mission as a burden or overwhelming.