Among 'good' people, shame runs rampant.

 

You try to obey, try to keep your promises, try to obey the rules... and... well... of course, you want to. At least a part of you does. But sometimes you just have to sneak around and do what 'you' want.

 

It's just that, afterwards... you cannot look people straight in the eye anymore. You know the feeling. It is shame.

 

Then the inner battle begins: "I am bad. But I really want to. I am wrong. But it tastes so delicious. Why shouldn't I? It feels so good. But then I am not okay. It does no harm. But I have sinned. I will be punished..."

 

The mixed emotion of Shame uses up so much internal energy...

Is there any way out of this swamp besides suicide?

 

 

Overall, in modern culture, there is confusion about Shame.

Various contexts view Shame in a different light. Whereas a religion might view Shame, and its related sensation 'guilt', as a way to control or subdue their congregation and force them into a particular penance, psychology might use Shame as a reason to prescribe brain drugs, yet still another context may view the experience of 'Shame' as a 'fifth feeling' in addition to anger, sadness, fear, and joy. In Japanese Bushido, if you 'lose face' and acquire enough Shame, it was expected that you should commit suicide through Harakiri, or Seppuku, so that the Shame ends with you and does not reflect on your 'superiors'.

Possibility Management's empirical research since 1975 relates to Shame as a 'Mixed Emotion', the sensations that arise when you blend together certain proportions of the Emotion of anger plust the Emotion of sadness plus the Emotion of fear.

There are several possibly unfamiliar Distinctions contained in the previous sentence.

As explained in the upgraded thoughtmap of Feelings used in Possibility Management, there is a radical difference between a 'Feeling' and an 'Emotion'.

A Feeling is not a thought.

Thoughts mostly occur in your mind, your 'intellectual body', which - in the Possibility Management world - is one of your 5 Bodies: physical, intellectual, emotional, energetic, and archetypal.

Feelings and Emotions occur in your Emotional Body, centered around your physical heart.

Possibility Management distinguishes four Feelings (Conscious Anger, Conscious Sadness, Conscious Fear, and Conscious Joy).

Possibility Management distinguishes many Emotions (Emotional Anger, Emotional Sadness, Emotional Fear, and Emotional Joy, plus all the varieties of Mixed Emotions, where two, three, or all four of the Emotions are mixed together in various proportions to create an entire palette of Mixed Emotional sensations).

The Feeling of anger, for example, feels the same as the Emotion of anger, at the beginning. How can you tell the difference if the anger (or any other feeling) is a Feeling or an Emotion?

It is very simple to detect the difference between Feelings and Emotions:

• If the sensations of anger (or sadness, or fear, or joy) come up, you apply its energy and intelligence, and the sensations of anger vanish from your body in less than 3 minutes, then it is a Feeling.
• If the sensations of anger (or sadness, or fear, or joy, or any of the Mixed Emotions) come up and last longer than 3 minutes, or if you have felt the same emotion about the same thing before, then it is not a Feeling. It is an Emotion.

Neither Feelings nor Emotions are good nor bad, right nor wrong, positive nor negative. Feelings and Emotions each server their own Purpose.

• Feelings are for handling things.
• Emotions are for healing things.

THE WAY TO MAKE USE OF A FEELING is as follows: As soon as you Notice the sensations of a Feeling arising, even at the 3% intensity level, or the 5% intense level, you put your attention there and say, "Welcome anger (or sadness, or fear, or joy)... What do you have for me?" Then you write down what your Feeling tells you to handle in your Beep! Book. Then you say, "Thank you! Anything else?" And you write down anything else your Feeling has for you. Repeat until you have received all the value from your Feeling. After that, the Feeling will be completely gone from your physical sensations. Then you get to decide what you will do the the energy and information you received from your Feeling. The Feeling does not decide what you do. You decide. You are 100% responsible for your Decisions.

THE WAY TO MAKE USE OF AN EMOTION is to grab your Beep! Book, flip to the back of it where you title a page EMOTIONAL HEALING PROCESSES, or EHPs, and write down exactly what you are feeling and what triggered that Emotion in you. Do not try to figure it out or make it go away. Instead, go to your Possibility Team or 3Cell or your EHP Dojo or the Emotional Healing Collaboration Group on Telegram (link: https://t.me/+WC5Px7eVEScNugzU) and ask someone to Navigate Space for an EHP for you. This way you use the Doorway that was opened by your Emotional Reactivity, and this is what Emotions are for:

• To unfold the next layer of the onion!
• To remove an Energetic Block that you installed long ago to save your life but which is no longer useful and is actually now in the way of you Living Full Out.
• To complete an Incomplete Emotion.
• To make a new Decision.
• To begin a new level of Practice with a new Possibilitator Skill.
• To retrieve a piece of your Energetic Body that you sent away so as to make you less frightening and more manageable for your parents and school teachers.
• To reclaim a quality of your Gremlin that you banished to disempower yourself as a clever Survival Strategy.
• To take back your Real Voice.
• To take back your Authority with regards to another element of your Potential.
• To escape from one of the 8 prisons.
• Etc. etc. etc. on and on along your authentic Path of becoming an initiated Free and Natural Adult.

Human beings are the only animals that can change a sensation into an Emotion through attaching a meaningful Story to the sensation.

By experientially mixing 2 Emotions together, you can create such experiences as depression, nostalgia, sentimentality, aggression, despair, isolation, hysteria, schadenfreude ('destruction joy'), and hopelessness. (For more clarity about Mixing and Unmixing Emotions, please study the https://unmixemotions.mystrikingly.com website.)

By experientially mixing 3 Emotions together, you can create such experiences as guilt, jealousy, embarrassment, envy, greed, revenge, resentment, blame... and shame.

By experientially mixing 4 Emotions together, you can create such experiences as overwhelm, burnout, collapse, catatonia, and psychological breakdown.

Emotions do not mix themselves. If your Emotions are mixed, it is because you have mixed them together intentionally (although perhaps unconsciously) to serve Hidden Purposes. You get a payoff for Mixing your Emotions. You receive a number of benefits (although the benefits may be in the direction of ways to avoid responsibility).

Shame is a Mixed Emotion, created inside you by mixing together anger, sadness, and fear.

If you ever want to experience Shame, then mix anger, sadness, and fear together as one experience in your heart.

Shame includes anger, for example, anger that there is any kind of social pressure for not doing or being what you want to do or be, anger that you were caught doing something that has been defined as bad, or evil, or forbidden, or 'inappropriate', anger that anyone would care enough to be regulating you about this, anger that you could not protect yourself from being discovered.

Shame includes sadness, for example, sadness that you do not get to be yourself, sadness that you might have to stop your secret pleasures, sadness that there is no room for your authentic self in this world, sadness that a future you once wished to have for yourself is lost.

Shame includes fear, for example, that you might be punished, fear that others may find out about what you did or what you secretly want to do and your reputation or credibility will be lost, fear that what you have been hiding has been discovered and might be taken away from you, fear that you will not be able to stop and could be killed for this.

If you ever DO NOT want to experience Shame, then Unmix your Emotions of anger, sadness, and fear.

Full instructions and demonstrations of Unmixing Emotions are online at https://unmixemotions.mystrikingly.com. After Unmixing your Emotions of anger, sadness, and fear, your Shame will be rather instantaneously gone.

But after Unmixing your Emotions you will still have your Emotions. You will have strong Emotions of Anger, strong Emotions of Sadness, and strong Emotions of Fear. The benefit is that now your Emotions are Unmixed. Now you can use them for what they were designed for. Each of these three Emotions is a precious Doorway to a new or deeper Emotional Healing Process (EHP).

Do the Processes!

It is possible that your Shame may come from Beliefs about what is good or evil, right or wrong, proper or improper, etc. These Beliefs may not even be your own Beliefs. They may be Beliefs that you took on from the Belief System or the Religion of your parents, for example. You may want to make an internal Distinction or Boundary about which Beliefs you are going to continue carrying around within you from here on out, or, if you will in fact carry any Beliefs at all.

Cleaning out your Beliefs requires Conscious Anger. To activate your own Conscious Anger, full participation in one or more Rage Clubs might be in order, plus 3-3-3 Practice. You might even be ready for Expand The Box training.

Shame is Baggage.

If your Shame is so intense that you can no longer function in life, that your life fails, then you secretly get Revenge against the person or system that causes you to be a failure. If you kill yourself from Shame, then it is 'their fault' because without them 'pressuring you' with their Beliefs, or enforcing their Rule system on you, you would not have had so much Shame that you decided it was necessary to kill yourself.

Revenge is Gremlin Food, plain and simple.

Dedicating your life to Shame is dedicating your life to Revenge. This means that your Gremlin unconsciously owns and runs your life. You may think that dedicating your life to getting Revenge is conscious, but it is not conscious. If you were truly conscious about what it costs you to sacrifice your life and loved-ones to feeding your Gremlin on Revenge, you could not do it. It would be too painful. To keep the pain subdued, you remain unconscious about what is really going on.

Keeping yourself unconscious about what you are actually up to is the life of a Zombie. You may want to take a look at the Zombies Anonymous Program.