Since profit, capital, and financial 'wealth' are the highest values in modern culture, family is merely a nuissance. Family is a problem for capitalists because the purchasing unit of a family is too big. Modern marketing has systemmatically broken down and isolated regenerative villages into multigenerational families, then down into nuclear families, and now down into lone-wolf, single-fighter households of batchelors and single moms. Why? Because if a neighborhood or family shares a car or a refrigerator or a television, for example, then the capitalists make far less profit than if each person lives alone and wants to have their own car, refrigerator, and television.

In modern culture, the man is supposed to go make money. Actually, the woman, even the mother, is now also supposed to go make money, to help pay for the children being sent into daycare and childcare nearly from birth on because the earning and spending of money adds to ghe Gross National Product and makes for a bigger economy. Family and community are dissected into tinier and tinier parts.

If a Mother has a son in the Patriarchy, you have this choice of either secretly hating and tormenting the boy to get revenge for what all the asshole patriarchal men have done to you for your whole life. Or you can take your son's Balls away and try to make him into a 'nice boy' who would never do such awful things to girls or women.

If you have a daughter in the Patriarchy, you have this choice of either teaching her to obey, to look down at the floor, to agree, to follow and fit into to the Patriarchy as a sexual possession of the men. Or you teach her to hate men as if men are pieces of shit, dumber than stones, so you can get your Revenge against the Patriarchy through your daughter being unavailable for the men.

The context of modern culture orients towards conquering, possessing, and ruling. This is the uninitiated masculine past-time. It is exterminating life on Earth.

Since the material world is held to be most valuable, and since materials in the material world are physically limited, then modern culture is oriented towards competition. In other words, the primary question of importance is who has the best wardrobe, best house, best husband, best vacations, best cars, and most money in the bank account.
Modern culture is a funny gameworld, in a sad sort of way.
How much of planet Earth does your husband own?
Yes, so, in this culture of conquering and owning, what is the mother's job? To make sure the children are seen but not heard? To clean up the children's messes?
Who, then, is cleaning up the messes of the Capitalist Patriarchal Empire?
The mess makers? The culture designers? The politicians?
Think again.
Regenerative Adulthood-Initiation Nonmaterial-Value centered cultures - such as Archiarchy - are rapidly emerging around the world now that the Capitalist Patriarchal Empire has run its course.

Don't be left behind playing in a stupid gameworld.

You thought you would find a man in modern culture? For a partner, a mate, a friend, a co-adventurer?

Sorry. You are looking in the wrong gameworld.

Modern culture is a patriarchy. In a patriarchy the men are protected from ever having to grow up, wake up, get conscious, or take responsibility.

Even men at the top of the most powerful hierarchies in the world remain adolescent idiots. By now that should be painfull clear...

Actually, nobody is initiated into adulthood in modern culture. Modern culture eliminated authentic adulthood initiations thousands of years ago. This protected the psychopaths from being discovered.

As Neil Postman explains in his book The Disappearance of Childhood, modern television suffocates childhood by making the adult secrets of sex and violence into popular entertainment, then formulating violent news and insane advertising at the intellectual level of ten-year-olds.

How is a woman supposed to find a man who can be present, be with, create, hold space, navigate subtle spaces of intimacy and delight?

It takes a community to raise a child.

Modern culture children are forced to conform and obey rules instead of working out how to live in community. Children are starving to experience a space where each human being is valued for their uniqueness and for each person to be a little bit crazy, so that the child can find a place for themselves and unleash their own uniqueness and their own craziness. Then they can be present with themselves and participate as themselves in the world.

Are you going to continue to obey and keep the isolation mask on your whole life? Are you going to remain in desperately lonely survival mode? Should you keep pretending to be something acceptable and knowable? Your children will not do what you say. They will become who you are. What are you teaching your children to become?

Trying to be a mother in a modern-culture family without a community of families, without mom's culture, without the 4 Archetypal Lineages: the Guardians, Village Weavers, Gameworld Builders, and Evolutionaries to facilitate your ongoing transformation into adulthood, and without children's culture around you in the village is an ill-conceived life plan.

Trying to be a single-mom in modern culture without a community around you is absolute insanity.

School is a family-killing virus.

School invades your family, takes over your personal and family purpose, takes over your schedule, and takes over the minds/hearts/and Beings of your children.

In many modern countries, if you do not send your children into the box-making machinery of public school, the government will put you in jail...

School indocrinates children into participating in the Capitalist Patriarchal Empire's consumer Zombie culture. If a child does not have the same model smart phone as all the other kids in school then they will be outcast.

How can you mother a child that is taken away and given the distorted crippling insane values of modern culture?

How can you create a family when your life is invaded by the school program?

When you force a child to go to school, you force them into a fourteen year prison sentence. You put them in an isolation ward to waste the exact years they need to be preparing themselves for their authentic adulthood initiations that start when they are eighteen years old.

Every child knows that if they do not go to school, you will not love them. You might even abandon them, or kill them by 'accidentally' leaving them behind at the next gas station.

At the same time, every child knows what is coming.

Your child knows that each day they spend at school is one less day they have to prepare themselves for the collapse of civilization.

By putting your child into school in the 21st Century you force them into an irreconcilable inner conflict: to obey you and die, or to leave you and die.

No wonder more and more children take drugs, drink themselves unconscious, join violent gangs, break laws, cut themselves, starve themselves, and are so angry at everything they cannot sit still in class for another minute (which has been named Attention Deficit Syndrome and is suppressed with pharma-brain drugs such as Ritalin that are so damaging that if you have taken them you cannot even join the military...)

You never had to send your kids to school, in reality. There are so many other possibilities.

Modern culture kills children's culture by dividing our children up according to their age, then putting them in classrooms of same-aged children to be taught by teachers, who are, in general, the crippled, adaptive people who feel like they themselves did well enough in school to further promote the institution of school.

For more than 200,000 years human beings had no public schools.

If you ever hung out in a village not dominated by modern culture values (as I got to do in 1981 and 1982 with North Thailand hilltribes, and in the North Philippines) you will have experienced thriving children's culture.

Archiarchal Children's Culture is a roving learning machine, a mixture of all ages of younger kids. As soon as the older ones learn or discover something cool their next delight is to teach it to the next younger kids, who pass it on down the line to the youngest. The older kids protect and take care of the younger kids showing them how to engage the world in a life of learning. It is the three-year-olds who carry around the one-year-olds... not the adults. The adults are interacting with other adults in adult culture, taking care of the village.

Personally I did not have a baby in my arms until my first daughter was born. I was completely ignorant about being with a baby. Not so children born into and growing up in a village with children's culture and organic unschooling

Any questions about this?

Either you have already made steps to exit the capitalist patriarchal empire by starting and/or moving into an ecovillage, intentional community, or nanonation, or by taking your children out of school and hitting the road for the remainder of their teenage years (without smart phones)...

or...

You are still a slave.

Paid less.

Honored less.

Seen less.

Nurtured less.

Respected less.

Valued less.

Need we continue?