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Make a list in your BEEP!Book of things you have been waiting for.

We usually wait for things that haven't happened yet. Or have you ever heard of someone waiting for yesterday's train?

We wait for something to happen in the future. Something is supposed to happen, someone is supposed to come, is supposed to say or do something. Then. Later.

When you wait for something, you have an expectation. When you have an expectation, you have a story about the future. Stories are never true. Stories are just stories.
Write in your list what you have been waiting for in your life. And also write down what you are waiting for right now.

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The difference between assumption and expectation is not always and not clear to everyone. Basically, I could say, "An assumption begins with the words: I assume that...". An expectation begins with the words, "I expect that...".
An expectation usually aims at the fact that in the future something will be this way or that way or one or more persons will do or be this or that.

An assumption tends to describe something static and something that has already happened or has already been decided. "I assume that a Hungarian goulash will have a lot of paprika in it."

One of 5000 possible expectations that could arise from this assumption would be, "I expect the cook to season my Hungarian goulash with a good amount of paprika."
Read the website with the name assumptions.mystrikingly.com to have the distinction clear.

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Open a new blank left page in your BEEP!Book.

The right side of the book should also be blank. On the left side of the book, write the heading: 20 Expectations I Have Right Now. The right book page gets the heading Underlying Assumptions
This experiment is finished when there are 20 expectations on the left side and the underlying assumptions on the right side.
It doesn't matter whether you have these expectations about one person or about a larger group of people. It is also not important whether you are convinced that your expectation is reasonable and your assumption is true.

You can also write down expectations that you have had for a very long time, perhaps since you were a small child.

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There is also in English the word "to await" which includes the word "to wait". Yes, that's how it is with expectations. We wait for them because their fulfillment / non-fulfillment is in the future.
It's kind of like standing on a railroad track and always looking in the direction of the tracks that are running, and there at the back, at the very back, where the two steel tracks run together, that's where your expectation will finally be fulfilled.

And while you wait for your expectation to finally be fulfilled, your life passes. (And the person who could fulfill your expectation may be playing poker in Naples right now).

Take the list of expectations you've written down over the last few days, and after each expectation, write how long you're willing to wait for your expectation to be fulfilled.

1 day? 2 weeks? 5 years?

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What is expected of you? I think my landlord expects me to pay the rent every month. Behind this could be the assumption that the rent payment is reasonable and he is entitled to it because we agreed on it in the contract and I live there after all. So there my landlord stands on the track month after month and expects my money on the first of the month. And he expects that, as far as he can see, every month.
Who expects something from you? And what? Write in your BEEP!Book who is on the track waiting for something that only you can do / be.
Employers, landlords, neighbors, friends, parents, teachers, partners. What are they expecting? And what are the underlying assumptions?

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When you have done the experiment Expectations of You, go over all the points you wrote down. Look at the assumptions. Each one. And what feelings do you have now?
For each assumption, start sentences with the words, "I feel anger/fear/sadness/joy because..."

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I have noticed that many of my assumptions and expectations are not conscious to me. They are unconscious to me, lie in the shadows and can make for some neat low drama. So I came up with an experiment where you can consciously look at the whole loop. By loop I mean:
a) You assume something.
b) You believe your assumption and make it an expectation of someone.
c) You wait for the fulfillment of your expectation.
d) You are disappointed.
e) You get angry (resentment)
f) You take revenge.
Examine a situation in your life where something went wrong, for example, you were bitterly disappointed. That would be point d) from the loop (You are disappointed.). Write this down, "He/she disappointed me by/because..." Then write down the other 5 points as well, until the whole loop is complete (a - f).
Do the same with 2-3 other situations in your life where people have disappointed you, you were wrong about them or they hurt you.

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Exploring what feedback you get when you don't meet others' expectations goes a long way. Here are a few examples:
- Order a table at a restaurant and get there an hour early.
- Order something in the restaurant that is not on the menu.
- Pay with a foreign currency.
- Call someone and don't speak a word during the call; wait until the other person hangs up.
- Give gifts that were not expected or give nothing when it is expected.
- Tip inappropriately.
- Walk through a mall singing loudly.
I recommend that you follow the following rule from Rageclub: Don't hurt yourself / Don't hurt another person / Don't get arrested and locked up.
How do you feel when you don't do what is expected, what is common? When people say you have disappointed or hurt them?

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