If you have been practicing consciously connecting to your feelings, and have gone through some layers of Emotional Healing Processes, can inner navigate anger fear sadness and joy, and have an experiential distinction between a feeling and an emotion, you are invited to go through this healing process to deterrorize yourself.

If you are a space holder, you are invited to hold this healing process for a person who has can inner navigate their four feelings, has gone through a number of Emotional Healing Processes, and still cannot access their voice, freezes in groups, cannot sense their authentic yes and no, and lives much of their life under pressure, aka unconscious fear, of doing something wrong or disappointing others.

This is a 60-90 minutes advanced Emotional Healing Process with the specific purpose for the client to go one by one through each person that terrorized them in their life.

In the process, a client uses their clicker (a snap of your finger) to bring someone in front of them. This does not happen in or from the mind, the client is not imagining someone they already planned to set a boundary with there.

When the client uses their clicker, a person shows up, and there is no necessary order or reason to try and control who shows up. I’ve seen people show up, and the client is surprised. The surprise may be a mixture of feelings, and is a doorway. Invite the client to explore.

Ask simple questions like: What did this person do to you? How did this person terrorize you? What did they say to you? What did they tell you about yourself?

Hold space with a baseline of 30 percent conscious anger to be clear and simple.

Notice if the client is mixing and be with them to slow down and feel their anger, fear and sadness one by one. Be with and sense for the point when they are ready to grow their Being and connect consciously to their anger.

Be clear with them that they cannot change the person, or control how the person acts, what they can shift is what they allow into their space.

Coach them into connection with their conscious anger to say what is over, what they will not stand for any longer, to say simple phrases like “this is my body,” and to be clear about how it will go if the person tries to breech the boundary.

You can ask, “What is the person doing?” Often, the response is, “they hear me, they seem to be slinking back and wanting to leave.” Or, “they look sad but something is different in their eyes.” Ask if there is anything else they need to say to this person. You as a Spaceholder will notice the physical body (posture, etc…) and energetic body (how clear is their bubble) change in relation to the person across from them. When there is nothing left to say, when the client has removed the person from their space completely, tell the client to use their clicker to put the person out of the space.

From there, the client moves on to the next person.

And this is how it goes for the time.

The amount of people that a client clicks in front of them is usually around 5-8 people. This is by no means a rule. I share simply as a reference point.

Script:

Spaceholder: Hello. Will you get centered, grounded and bubbled, and share with me the color of your grounding cord on the count of three. 1, 2, 3

Client: Blue

Spaceholder: Thank you. You are here to de-terrorize yourself. I am here to accompany you. I am on your team for you to get whoever terrorized you out of your energetic space. Is this the initiatory space you are here to do?

Client: Yes

Spaceholder: Thank you. It goes like this. You will use your clicker to call each person here one by one. This does not come from your mind. When they appear, share with me who it is, make contact with them and feel. Then begin to say everything that you need to say to them. Say what they did. What they didn’t do. Let whatever needs to come up come up. You are already feeling something now. Will you say that.

Client: I feel scared.

Spaceholder: Because?

Client: I feel scared that I won’t be able to do it.

Spaceholder: Yes. You feel scared that you wont be able to do it. Let that be here. I will continue to speak as you feel.

This process is similar to a standing rage hold, in that for each person, you will not move on until you set a clear boundary using your conscious anger, and the boundary lands. You may start to sense that your Being gets bigger, and continues to grow, throughout the process. It is quite possible that by the end, you are able to click the people and set the boundaries more quickly, in that the size of your Being and the level of your conscious anger allow this to be so.

Are there any question before you begin.

Client: No

Spaceholder: Thank you. Then, go ahead and use your clicker to call forth the first person.

(Client clicks): It’s my dad.

Spaceholder: What is his name.

Client: Abe

Spaceholder: Begin to say what you need to say.

Client: You were so, cruel. It was so scary to be in the house when you were home but i guess good thing you hardly were. I would come into the living room and you would pretend I didn’t exist. After not seeing me for days.

Spaceholder: Yes you felt scared to be in the house with him. What else, keep going. Be specific.

Client: You were so mean to mom. I hate how you talked to her and made her do everything you wanted. I hate that you treated me like i was the problem. You said i was the reason you stayed away so much. (Client feels sadness)

Spaceholder: Yes let that be here, open your mouth and let the sounds come out. Yes, just like that, and will you say what you are feeling.

Client: I feel sad because I really didn’t have a safe home, like some of my friends at least being home was a place they could rest, play, just be. I feel sad that I didn’t get to have that.

Spaceholder: Yes and will you speak that directly to Abe.

Client: I feel sad, but mostly angry, that I didn’t get to rest at home because you were so angry and hate your life and took it out on all of us.